Take Back The Truth

Take Back The Truth

Two of my favorite quotes from this article: (http://time.com/3222543/5-feminist-myths-that-will-not-die/)

“My advice to women’s advocates: Take back the truth.”


“Here is the problem: American women are among the best informed and most self-determining human beings in the world. To say that they are manipulated into their life choices by forces beyond their control is divorced from reality and demeaning, to boot.”

Both my son and my step son, (age 12 and 13,) talk to me all the time about feminism and what exactly does it mean. I say I am not a feminist because the word is associated with a lot of broad generalizations. In my opinion, women need to be individuals first and foremost. We have to find out what the actual facts are… then advocate for what is of specific interest to us. And then learn about that and speak out.

I picked sex.

Women need to speak their mind about sex. What they want… what they need… what they want to give and how they want to involve themselves in their own sexuality. Then they can decide if they want to advocate for themselves and others publicly… or not. Whether it be dispelling myths if you are an asexual person, or asking to not be judged for being a free spirited sexual adventurer.

Women in my opinion need to step away from moral judgments put in place by men going back centuries. Yet these moral judgments modern men now think are bogus too. So it’s not women against men. It’s modern society as a whole advocating for this. My site has a mostly male audience. All the men I know are eager to help women break out of any sexually oppressed societal norm we don’t feel we fit into. Therefore you will notice, I don’t speak on sex with an atypical, “We women need to fight for our rights because we are suppressed by men!” I say, “This is the situation as I see, what do you think?” Men see my logic, agree and are happy to add to my fan base and help me continue doing what I do. It’s not us against them… it’s us with them.

I know there are men who are still against women being sexually free. I know there are men in other countries who kill women for their sexual choices. But I am tackling my own little neck of the woods. Because that I can speak on with authority and create support here. That is what starts the process. Focus on what you actually can do. Not what is not being done in other parts of the world. If I succeed here, then it will hopefully create a trickle down effect. Like passing a baton.

That’s my “soapbox” on women’s issues. That’s the topic I picked as a non-Mormon woman growing up in Utah feeling the actual repression women face sexually.

That’s my point of this post. Speaking from personal experience and specific facts is what brings equality. Not broad generalizations that serve no purpose other than to perpetuate the myth that we women are powerless victims fighting a losing battle. A battle that isn’t specific enough to actually win. And a battle that pits us against them…

And last, my opinion is that an optimistic, goal oriented woman with a specific plan will accomplish more than any broad generalization that serves no other purpose then to cause outrage.

What are your thoughts? These are just my opinions, feel free to disagree.